All of my hemming and hawing about wedding music though has
got me thinking a lot lately about music in general and the powerful influence
it holds over our lives. Music can lift us up from low places, inspire us and
make us cry. Like poetry or dance, music can tell stories in a unique
way—stories about our lives and who we are. Music help us relive memories that
time slowly pulls away from us as the years meander by. As a writer, I
naturally tend to focus more on the lyrics of a song than the actual tune, but
when the two elements are combined they generate a work of art so beautiful you
can’t describe it……you can only feel it.
I was replaying a scene in my mind the other day from the
movie, Walk the Line, with Joaquin
Phoenix as Johnny Cash. There’s a part in the beginning where his band
auditions at the legendary Sun Records Studio in Memphis, Tennessee for Sam
Phillips. After beginning to play a popular gospel tune of the day, Mr.
Phillips interrupts Johnny and the boys to ask if they had something more
original to play.
“If you was hit by a truck and was lying out there in that
gutter dying and you had time to sing one song….one song that people would
remember before you’re dirt….one song that would let God know how you felt
about your time here on earth….one song that would sum you up, you tellin’ me
that’s the song you’d sing………..or would you sing somethin’ different?” Phillips
asks.
I think at some point in all of our lives we come to know
what that one song is. That song that would let God know how we feel about our
time on earth….the song that sums us up. And I think knowing that is important.
We can go our whole lives thinking that people understand us, respect us and
will remember us. But I think the reality is far from that. Each of us has our
secret loves and desires, demons we wrestle with, crosses we bear, and regrets
we never make peace with. Those are the kinds of things that, even the boldest
of writers, struggle to ever express. But they’re also the things that are the
most important to know about someone—even if it is after their time here is
done. Knowing those things can transform everything we ever believed about
someone—and no doubt, for the better. That one song can accomplish the things
we spend years, if not our entire lives, trying to achieve.
What’s that one song for me? That’s easy. “My Way” by Elvis
Presley.
The song, “My Way,” originated as a French song called
“Comme D’Habitude” (“As Usual”) written by composers Jacques Revaux and Gilles
Thibault. They took it to French pop star Claude Francois, who tweaked it a bit
and recorded the song in 1967. The
French version tells the story of a man living out the end of his marriage,
love killed by the boredom of everyday life. Singer/Songwriter Paul Anka later
discovered the song and rewrote the lyrics as “My Way.” His lyrics changed the
meaning to be about a man looking back fondly on a life he lived on his own
terms. Anka pitched the song to Frank Sinatra who first recorded it on December
30, 1968 and it quickly became one of his signature tunes. Elvis Presley began
performing the song in concert during the 1970s. His live performance of the
song featured on his October 1977 TV special was released as a single several
weeks after his death and screamed right up the Billboard Charts to #5 and also
became a certified Gold recording.
While I’ve heard Sinatra’s version of the song, Elvis’ will
always reign supreme in my mind. You can both see and hear it in his
performance of it that Elvis didn’t just sing that song, he lived it. The words
cut right into the very corners of his own life. And over the years, I’ve
realized that they cut right into my life as well.
In my 28 short years I’ve come to realize and embrace who I
am and how I want to live my life. And all of that has been done in MY WAY.
It takes guts to plot a course for your life that goes
against convention. It takes guts to reach for more than what is “supposed” to fulfill
you and make you happy. I’ve lived with judgement and feelings of resentment from
many because I’ve put my writing career ahead of getting married and starting a
family. But I know that being a wife and mother would never be enough for me.
Anyone can become a spouse or parent but not everyone has what it takes to be a
writer. I know now that being a writer is my calling from God and at the end of
my life I believe I will be more fulfilled for having done His work.
Living a full life I think means constantly reinventing
yourself, challenging yourself and growing yourself into far more than your or
anyone ever dreamt possible. When I was little my parents told me I could grow up
to be anything that I wanted. So I became a ballerina, a writer, a
long-distance cyclist, a left wing in hockey, a motocross racer, a mountain
sled rider, a wake surfer, and a cupcake baker. And just think…..I’m only 28 years old. My
point is, as C.S. Lewis put it, “you are never too old to set another goal or
to dream a new dream.” Never limit yourself by what you’re told you should be.
Ask yourself what you COULD be.
Regrets? I do have some. But as Elvis sang it, “not enough to
mention.” I’ve always done what I felt I had to do. I’ve loved people
unconditionally and because of that have been told my love is overbearing. I’ve
stood side by side with friends determined to walk through hell with them only
to watch those same people leave me in ditches to rot when I most needed them. I’ve
believed in and supported people who were at every turn in my life telling me I
wasn’t good enough, wouldn’t make it, and should just turn back. It is for all
of those naysayers that I get up each day with a beating heart and full lungs
determined to keep going. I’ve forgiven people---not once or twice—but as many
times as they needed until they finally turned it all around. I entered into a
faith feeling largely alone and unsupported. But I was called and wasn’t afraid
to answer. And most importantly, I’ve made horrendous mistakes that make me
fear the next life. But I believe that God intended each of those missteps in
His grand plan of leading me to righteousness.
I’ve always lived my life according to my own rules knowing
that in the end it isn’t about what the rest of the world thinks about me. It’s
what myself and the good Lord above thinks.
When I’ve used up all the talent and energy I’ve been
blessed with and pass from this life, “My Way” is the song I want played at my
funeral. That is the song to sum me up. Catholic funeral rules be damned, I
will still make sure my last appearance in this life is done my way. And I do
believe that many unexpected visitors will make an appearance that day….if for
no other reason than out of respect for my guts, my tenacity, my persistence,
and my ability to love and forgive.
I’ve always been willing to take the blows it seems….but I’ve
always done it My Way.
Love that picture, Lacey! Love that song too (My Way). I have always thought I would like "It Is Well With My Soul," played at my funeral. I love the version by The Second Chapter of Acts, Hymns II. The story behind the lyrics to that song is incredible. You are a great writer...keep doing it your way!
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