My Sunflower

Last weekend the highly anticipated royal wedding between Prince Harry and Meghan Markle finally took place at St. George’s Chapel. In the days since, the media and fashion industry has been busy scrutinizing every minute detail from the event…..from the simple but elegant lines of Meghan’s Givenchy dress and her signature messy bun hairstyle to the rousing sermon delivered by the passionate Reverend Michael Curry and the performance by the Kingdom Choir.

One of the wedding details that intrigued me was the composition of Meghan’s seemingly understated bouquet. It was later announced that her bouquet was actually filled with hidden meanings that were steeped in both tradition and memory. Her bouquet was comprised of forget-me-nots, lily of the valley, astilbe, jasmine, astrantia, and a sprig of myrtle. The forget-me-nots were used in loving memory for being one of Princess Diana’s favorite flowers while the sprig of myrtle has been a traditional aspect of all royal bouquets since Queen Victoria as an emblem of love and marriage. The astilbe represents dedication and the lily of the valley is another symbol of love.

The amount of tradition and symbolism wrapped into Meghan’s bouquet got me thinking about my own wedding bouquet and reasons behind one of the flowers I chose to include in it.

The primary color at our September wedding was royal blue, which was echoed by the brilliant blue hydrangeas stashed in my bouquet as well as the bridesmaids’ bouquets. But the flowers that really left their mark that day were the bold yellow sunflowers whose cheery shade of yellow was impossible to miss. My choice for including them was a deliberate and purposeful one.

On May 25, 2014, a mere 9 days after Andy got down on one knee and proposed to me, I found myself sitting in a stuffy room at the ER while a doctor briefed me on the results from an MRI scan they did on him. The diagnosis, which was later confirmed by a neurologist in Bozeman, was Multiple Sclerosis. It was devastating news that utterly obliterated what was supposed to be one of the happiest moments in my life.

Over the course of the next few weeks I spent dozens of hours on the phone with neurologist offices across the country trying to get him in to see someone. Even more hours were spent arguing with Blue Cross Blue Shield to get him clearance for the medications he would need to treat his condition. There were long afternoons spent at the hospital waiting, drip by drip, as steroids were pumped into Andy’s blood stream to try and restore his vision that had been effected. There were plenty of silent and hidden tears shed while I showered each morning and more prayers sent up to Heaven than some make in a lifetime.

I spent the first month of our engagement terrified, broken-hearted, angry, and resentful. But through it all, despite being the actual patient experiencing symptoms, Andy remained a beacon of hope and optimism. He remained calm and collected during appointments while I hung my head between my knees trying not to pass out. He was the one making me smile despite his vision being distorted. He was the one gently rubbing my back during Mass while I stared at the crucifix willing God to provide answers.

In what was one of the most trying moments thus far in my life, Andy was my hope…my constant…my light and my faith. He was my sunflower.

Flash forward 16 months to the day of our wedding. When I walked down the aisle on my dad’s arm in the church where I was baptized and where Andy first received the Sacrament of the Sick, I clutched a bouquet filled with sunflowers.

Sunflowers symbolize adoration, loyalty and longevity. And while all of those aspects are critical for a successful marriage, I chose to include them in my bouquet because their faces always turn towards the sun. Sunflowers focus on the source of their life and strength no matter what is happening around them. Even when they are getting pummeled on the side of a desolate highway by wind, rain and debris, their faces still turn towards the light.

For me Andy and God above serve as my life and strength each day. They have both taught me to keep my face turned always towards the light---the light of hope…the light of faith…the light of love. Because if I do that….If I focus everything in me on those brilliant aspects above, around and within me, the darkness will never win.

In the four years since Andy’s diagnosis, there have certainly been moments of trepidation and uncertainty. I’ve witnessed some hard days for Andy both physically and spiritually. But through it all he has kept a smile on his face and exudes nothing but optimism and joy from the inside out. He inspires me each and every day and renews my faith in God by the smallest actions.

So for my sunflower, on this your 4^th anniversary, I pray and wish for nothing more than health, happiness, hope and love on all our days to come. I love you.  

Wallace Cornelius

“Dogs are the closest we come to knowing the divine love of God on this side of eternity.” (Anne Lamott)

As a Catholic, I believe in and have experienced most of the seven sacraments of the church. The sacraments--like baptism, reconciliation, Eucharist, and marriage are defined as “outward and visible signs of inward and spiritual divine grace.” They are God’s way of sharing his holiness with us and calling us to be witnesses to continue his son’s legacy of making the world holier. 

A few days ago, I came to the realization that perhaps there is an 8^th sacrament of sorts worth experiencing. The outward sign of this new-found grace in my life came in the form of a single paw print stamped into the pure white snow in my backyard. 

Two months ago a beautiful gift came into my life that inspires and reminds me on a daily basis to love with Christ’s unconditional love, forgive with God’s ceaseless mercy, and serve others with tireless devotion. That gift is a rambunctious ball of brown fur whose name……is Wallace Cornelius. 

Andy and I had talked about getting a dog for a long time. But like a lot of “parents” to be, we were waiting for the perfect time and circumstances before bringing one into our home. We wanted to have our yard fully fenced and for the weather to be warm and pleasing. We wanted months to prepare and adjust to the ideas of our daily life changing. 

But true to form, God had other plans and undoubtedly spent some time chuckling at all our careful planning. 

Just a couple of weeks before Christmas, Andy called a breeder to put our name on a waitlist for a lab puppy. The plan was to hopefully get in on a dog from a litter that would be ready to come home in late spring or early summer. After taking down our info and learning that we were hoping for a male chocolate lab, the breeder informed Andy that she had a male chocolate puppy whose previously selected family had decided to wait a bit longer. So if we wanted him, he was ours.

Since my first puppy came to me on Christmas morning when I was only about 2 or 3 years old, I was thrilled at the idea of having another Christmas puppy. It felt like it was meant to be. 

Flash forward a few weeks and we were on our way home from Whitehall, with a very sleepy puppy passed out in my lap. 

One of the first questions we got asked about Wallace was how did we come up with his name? Andy and I both always smile at that question because…..much like Wallace himself, his name had been in the works for quite some time.

Two summers ago, my sister-in-law Holly was living with us. It was the first summer in our new house and we were already starting to talk about the day we would have a dog bouncing around our yard. Holly was very supportive and anxious of this prospect. But she explained to us that she felt all dogs should be given “old man names.” To clarify, any kind of name you imagine your grandfather having such as Albert, George, or Harold. Wallace was one of the names she initially suggested and from that day on it just stuck.

Those first few days of having Wallace at home were a true joy. He was so small and cuddly and we took many a nap together on the floor. I believe that there is an empty space inside all of us that only a dog’s presence in our life can ever fill. You don’t realize the space is there until you first bring a dog into your life…..or until a dog first passes out of your life. And honestly, I believe the same can be said of the Holy Spirit. You don’t realize how much healing and grace you need in your life until you decide to hand your life fully over to someone as far above and beyond you as God. 

 It’s hard to believe that Wallace has gained over 20 pounds since bringing him home and that his paws hardly struggle to reach the tops of our counters now. He has an obsessive love for peanut butter and frozen baby carrots. He wiggles his butt so much when he’s excited that it’s amazing he can even stay upright. He has yet to find his big dog voice but never runs short on warm, wet kisses for anyone who looks his way. 

 

From potty training and tattered baseboards, to stolen beanie hats and plenty of bite marks, we have certainly had our share of frustrating days with Wallace. We have both lost our temper with him a time or two. And some days all we can do is count down the minutes till we can put him in his kennel for bed. But the first five minutes of my day are now some of my favorite because I get to see his big amber eyes and wiggly butt greet me. And no matter how loudly I yelled at him the night before, he loves me just as much 10 minutes later as he would have if I had never yelled at him. 

As my dad asked the other day, “Is there ever anyone more happy to see you when you get home than your dog?” The number of times in a day I now smile, laugh, and feel totally at peace with the world has multiplied a hundred times over thanks to Wallace and the simple, exuberant, and “old soul” way about him. 

God left his church sacraments for us to receive so that we could more visibly see the grace he brings into our life. He calls us to live holy lives and love others unconditionally. And while I’ve spent a good deal of time before on my knees in prayer and in silent reflection with a bible open in my lap, the purest form of unconditional love and mercy I’ve witnessed in my life has been by walking side by side with a dog. 

Be At Peace.....

I read a quote a long time ago that said, “God already knows what is going to happen…..he is just waiting for the right time to reveal it to me.” 

Three years ago as I was preparing to be baptized into the Catholic Church I had come to the realization that God planned on calling me to his faith long before he revealed that plan to me. Looking back on my life I picked out all kinds of small moments and encounters that, unbeknownst to me at the time, were pulling me closer to God. From my Catholic friends in high school who first introduced me to the faith, to settling on Carroll College as my educational institution, to falling in love with my future husband who convinced me to attend my first Catholic mass…..God was subtle but deliberate in his hints to me.

But it wasn’t until the fall of 2013 that I felt the undeniable pull to hand my life over to the healing and saving powers of God. 

On April 19, 2014 after months of religious education classes, prayer and mounting anticipation, the day of my baptism was upon me. That morning as I finished up rehearsing for the Easter Vigil later that night, I was asked who I had chosen as my confirmation saint. I smiled because I had chosen my saint months earlier. 

After being baptized during the Vigil that night, I stood in front of the parish holding my baptismal candle as my head was anointed with holy oil to confirm my pledge of faith. And I was called by the name of my patron saint--Francis……for Francis de Sales.

Francis de Sales is known as the patron saint of Catholic writers, the Catholic press, the deaf, journalists and those in adult education. Having realized long ago that writing is my ultimate calling in this life from God, how could I have chosen anyone else for my confirmation saint? 

Francis de Sales was born to a noble family at Chateau de Sales in the kingdom of Savoy near Geneva, Switzerland in 1567. While Francis’ father desired him to enter a career in law and politics, Francis had longed to serve God from an early age. But he kept this desire hidden from his family for years. 

Francis did go on to receive his doctorate in law at the University of Padua but was later ordained to the priesthood. 

During the time of the Protestant reformation, Francis lived close to Calvinist territory. He decided he should lead an expedition to bring the 60,000 Calvinists back to the Catholic Church. For three years, he trudged through the countryside, had doors slammed in his face and rocks thrown at him. In the bitter winters, his feet froze so badly they bled as he tramped through the snow.

Francis' unusual patience kept him working. No one would listen to him, no one would even open their door. So, Francis found a way to get under the door. He wrote out little pamphlets to explain true Catholic doctrine and slipped them under the doors. This is one of the first records Catholics have of religious tracts being used to communicate the true Catholic faith to people who had fallen away from the Church.

By the time Francis returned home, it is believe he bought 40,000 people to the Catholic Church.

While only a glimpse into the life of my saint, it is the only glimpse I need to feel a strong and undeniable connection to him.

Sometimes I’ve wondered if the choice of Francis was too simple and easy. He’s the patron saint of journalists and since I am a writer and journalist of sorts I chose him as my saint. Easy peasy!

But something happened a few weeks ago…..another one of those subtle but clearly deliberate pokes of God into my life that made me realize that perhaps Saint Francis has also been walking at my side all along too. 

I was at my parent’s house one day and getting something out of their bedroom. On my way back out their door, something stopped me dead in my tracks. There is a picture that has hung on their wall for as long as I can remember. It contains the following quote:

“Do not look forward to what might happen tomorrow; the same everlasting Father, who cares for you today, will take care of you tomorrow and every day. Either he will shield you from suffering, or he will give you unfailing strength to bear it. Be at peace then, and put aside all anxious thoughts and imagination.” 

I’ve always loved the quote but that day was the first time I took note of the voice behind it.  The name written below the quote was none other than Francis de Sales. 

During this Lenten season as I practice fasting, almsgiving, and reconciliation, I find peace and comfort in knowing that God and Saint Francis de Sales walk beside me each day….guiding me…..healing me….comforting me. And I believe, coincidence or not, that Francis chose me just as much as I chose him. 

Saint Francis de Sales pray for us!

The Summer of Bart

French novelist, Colette, said it flawlessly when she wrote, “Our perfect companions never have fewer than four feet.”

This past spring, as I prepared for my husband to move to West Yellowstone for work for five months, I found myself worrying about getting lonely in his absence. It was an unusual concern for me to have considering I lived on my own for several years prior to getting married. But since marrying Andy, I have grown accustomed to waking up next to another beating heart each morning and a smiling face embracing me at the end of each day. What was I going to do without someone to keep me company every day….especially at night. 

Little did I know that a small, cotton-tailed ball of fluff would soon begin his daily check ins on me in Andy’s place.

Not long after Andy packed up and headed for West, I began a routine of checking on the progress of our grass seed filling in our back yard. After getting home from work each night I would walk out our back door onto the deck to see how the bare patches were continuing to fill in. On one such night I noticed a small brownish rabbit resting in one of the patchier areas of grass just off our deck.

“Hey there buddy!” I hollered out to him smiling. 

After giving me a quick once over out of the corner of his eyes, the rabbit deemed me harmless and remained nestled comfortably in his spot.

Having seen numerous rabbits bounding about between the yards in our neighborhood since moving into our house, I didn’t think much about this rabbit’s visit….until I came home the next evening to again notice a rabbit sitting in the same area of our yard. It looks suspiciously like the rabbit from the night before with its chestnut brown coat speckled throughout with patches of grey. 

Turns out….it was the same rabbit. 

Over the course of the next few weeks this curious critter made his nightly appearance around the same time and in the same section of our yard. He just sat there peacefully staring off into the distance. Occasionally he bent his head down to munch on a clump of grass. Wanting to befriend him and encourage him to hang around, I began leaving small pieces of bell peppers in the grass where he normally sat. I had no idea whether rabbits ate peppers but it was one of the only fresh vegetables I seemed to have around. And while he never seemed to eat very many (if any) of the peppers pieces, he did continue to show up nearly every night. 

Once I realized this rabbit might be hanging around for good, I decided it was only appropriate to name him. And the first name that came to mind was “Bart.” It may sound strange, but there was a comforting nature to Bart’s presence in our yard each night. I guess you could say he filled the husband gap during the week while Andy was away working.  I had someone to check in with each night when I got home. And while he wasn’t as interactive as Andy or even a dog, he was still there waiting at home for me each night. 

Oddly enough, once Andy returned home in September Bart stopped coming around. I guess he realized I didn’t need him as much anymore. Every once in a while I still catch a glimpse of a rabbit scurrying about our neighborhood. But I’m never quite sure if it’s Bart or not. I do like to think, however, that Bart continues to keep secret tabs on me and make sure that Andy is in fact home now to watch over me. I do hope when spring returns that so does at least the occasional appearance from my friend, Bart.

Earthquakes, Rosary Beads and Chilling in My Panties

In the early morning hours of July 6, a 5.8 magnitude earthquake startled many people out of their sleep across western Montana. It was the strongest quake to rock the state in 20 years and was felt upwards of 500 miles away from the epicenter.

Where was I during this eventful occurrence? Well, to put it bluntly…..I was chilling in my driveway in my panties. 

At approximately 12:30 a.m. when the big tremors began, I was dead asleep in my bed. After jolting awake, I flipped out of bed and went running out into the kitchen. The house and everything around me was shaking with a furiousness I had never felt before in my life. With my husband working out of town, I was completely alone in our house and was utterly terrified. It was one of those moments that’s so shocking you think it must be a dream at first. But then you realize it’s the real deal and flashbacks of every disaster movie you’ve ever seen flood your mind.  

I have vague memories from elementary school of cowering under my desk during our annual earthquake drills. It was pounded into all of us that if and when a quake ever struck we were to get underneath something sturdy or wedge ourselves in a door frame. But I neglected any of these protocols that night. 

My first instinct after running into the kitchen and realizing my whole world was shaking was to run outside. I made it as far as the door into the garage when I realized that the only thing I was wearing was a pair of underwear. That’s right. No bra, no baggy sleep shirt…just a pair of panties.

Since temperatures had been in the high 90s every day for weeks and we didn’t have air conditioning, sleeping with practically nothing on was the only way I could get comfortable. Just as I was about to dash out the door, I remembered my minimalist evening attire and paused. I knew there was a chance there might be other people outside too so I figured I’d better throw on at least a shirt. After dashing back into my bedroom, I grabbed my cell phone and ripped a zip up sweatshirt off the hanger in my closet. 

By the time I made it outside to our driveway the tremors had stopped. The trembling of my body, however, had not. As I stood there in my underwear and sweatshirt clutching my phone for dear life, I glanced down our darkened street to see if anyone else had come outside. But it turned out I was alone there as well. 

Suddenly from down the street to the south, I heard a loud rattling sound. I knew instantly it was an aftershock. The sound rolled swiftly toward me like a wave until I felt the ground underneath me shaking again. The tremor was not quite as large as the first time but was still enough to make me stumble sideways. After the first aftershock had rolled past me and the ground solidified again, my whole body began convulsing out of utter shock and fear. With my hands trembling, I lifted my phone up and dialed my husband’s number. He was in West Yellowstone at the time working on the airport. With the frequent seismic activity in Yellowstone and jokes about it being the “super volcano” I feared that the quake had originated there and I was only feeling the residual tremors from it. I knew my husband was a heavy sleeper but after three tries of calling him with no answer, my heart rate grew exponentially. I tried him at his work cell number instead and finally I heard a muffled voice answer. 

“Andy, are you ok?” I shouted into the phone.

“Yes,” he answered groggily.

“There was an earthquake here,” I said. “Did you feel it too? Are you ok?”

“No. And I’m fine,” he said.

“Ok well I just wanted to make sure you were ok,” I said sighing. 

I knew he was exhausted from work and had to get up in a few hours but I needed him to wake up and be as freaked out about what was happening as me. I mean what if the really big earthquake was still coming? What if our whole house collapsed right into the ground? But he was just too tired to even fully register what I was telling him.  

“Ok well I’ll let you go back to sleep I guess,” I said rolling my eyes.

I’ll admit I was irritated but hearing the sound of his voice and knowing he was alright was all that really mattered to me. After hanging up with Andy, I called my parents next. My mom answered the phone and quickly asked if I was alright. In the middle of assuring her I was ok, my dad picked up the phone. He also asked if I was ok. He told me he was going to walk outside and inspect their house and would call me back in a few minutes.

In the meantime, I decided to go back inside. I went into my bedroom and pulled the box containing my rosary beads out from my nightstand. For whatever reason, I felt compelled to pray a rosary in that moment. 

Having only joined the Catholic Church three years earlier, praying the rosary was still new to me and I couldn’t exactly remember all the parts. After frantically digging through the drawer, I pulled out my handout on how to pray the rosary. Clutching the beads in my hand I went and stood in my kitchen, closed my eyes, and began to lift up my prayers to God and his ever patient mother, Mary.  

In the middle of praying a rosary, my dad called me again.

“Do you want me to come and get you?” he asked.

In my mind, I wanted to tell him yes. But then I thought back to all of the disaster movies I’ve seen and how it’s always the parent who goes to rescue the kid but then doesn’t make it.

“I can drive myself over,” I answered. 

Being an extremely paranoid and anxious person, I couldn’t bring myself to leave the house without taking a few valuable possessions with me. I grabbed a tote bag out of the closet and quickly dumped in my jewelry box with my wedding rings, my external hardrive with all my photos, the bible I received the night I was baptized, and my rosary beads. In that moment, those items were the most valuable things in the world to me. 

I went back out to the garage…this time with pants on….and got in my car to leave. My parents only live about five minutes away but it felt like it took an eternity to get there. I was terrified another quake would strike while I was driving and just prayed that a huge crevice didn’t open up in the earth and swallow me. 

After arriving at my parent’s house, the three of us sat in the living room staring at each other for a while and discussed our reactions to when the quake first struck. Eventually my mom went into her bedroom to try and get some sleep. But I was way too anxious to even think about sleeping.

My dad was reclined back in his recliner watching TV so I curled up on the couch with a blanket and watched with him. Eventually he fell asleep too. I, on the other hand, persisted in trying to calm my heart rate by watching The Great Outdoors and Sex and the City. Sometime around 3 a.m. sleep finally overtook my nerves and delivered a few hours of peace. I woke around 6:30 a.m. and drove home to get ready for work. 

The earthquake on July 6 was nothing compared to what it could have been. No damage, structurally or bodily, was done. Some people slept right through it and others spent the day after laughing about it. But the fact is that the potential for a truly large quake is always there. My eyes were opened that night to the true and sometimes terrifying power of our planet. And in those catastrophic moments, we are all rendered completely helpless. 

Looking back, me running outside in my underwear during an earthquake was probably a terrible idea. But I was grateful that in a moment of such great fear and uncertainty, I did the best thing I possibly could do. I submitted myself to God’s plan and good graces and hoped he would carry me through. Even when choosing a few select items to flee my house with, I barely thought about it before choosing my bible and rosary beads. It is good to know how deeply rooted in my heart my faith is and that even in the worst moments of my life I turn to God to be reminded to “be not afraid."

 

Cherish the Small Things...Like Crustified Boogers

The other morning I was standing in the shower—head tilted back—encouraging the hot water and steam to strip away my cares and ease me into the new day. My morning shower is usually the ten most blissful minutes of my entire day. The normal waves of anxiety and stress that pummel me throughout the day disappear for those ten minutes. But for some reason that morning I suddenly found my eyes frantically scanning the white walls of the shower and the back panel of the shower curtain. What I was looking for was something so small it would be undetectable to most. But for me, it was a source of great comfort and joy. My search, however, left me empty handed that morning.

What was I looking for exactly? To put it plainly, crustified boogers.  

  

Yes, you heard me correctly. Crustified boogers. And no, I do not have children yet to leave me such delightful little surprises. The boogers I was searching for in my shower were those belonging to my husband.

Living in close quarters with another human being, in particular a spouse, has a tendency to reveal the more disgusting and distasteful habits of someone over time. The fact that my husband blows his nose in the shower is one such habit that I was introduced to before we were even married. And while it completely grosses me out most of the time, I have come to accept it and fully expect to hear the action as it occurs each morning while I get ready. It’s become part of my routine in a similar way to it being part of his. 

If I ever find myself wondering whether Andy still blows his nose in the shower, I am most always reassured after showering after him. More often than not while I am shaving my legs, I glance over to notice a small speck or two on the shower wall….remnants of his nasal evacuation process. I always smile when I spy one and then use my thumb nail to gently scrape it off and send it on its merry way down the drain. 

Over time, Andy’s crustified shower boogers have become these curious little reminders for me of his presence in my life. I cherish them because they let me know that he is close at hand. But for the past two months my life has been devoid of Andy’s boogers….and more importantly, of him.

Andy is a civil engineer who largely deals with projects involving airports. What this means is that most summers he is sent away to some little podunk airport in the middle of nowhere to work. The past two summers have been a real blessing as he has been allowed to stay in town. But this summer, and all the way up till November, he will be living and working on the property of the West Yellowstone airport. 

Not a bad gig right? I mean people travel from all around the world each year to visit our nation’s first national park. It sounds glamorous but in all reality Andy is living in a trailer, working 14 hour days standing on sheets of asphalt, and driving each morning to a shower facility designed for fire fighters. And he will be roughly three hours from our home in Helena.  

What his new reality for the next six months boils down to for me is that there will no longer be crustified boogers in our shower. But it’s so much more than that.

With him only being able to come home one or two days a week at best, I don’t get to wake up next to him or bury myself in his arms so I can avoid going to the gym. We don’t kiss each other goodbye as we both leave for work in the morning. I don’t swing by his office to pick him up at lunch so we can run home and watch another episode of Orange is the New Black on Netflix while eating. I don’t get to experience him yelling at me after work for binging on tortilla chips and salsa while I hangrily await him to cook dinner. We don’t get to say Grace together over the meal he has prepared with love for both of us. I go to Mass alone a lot of weekends and still leave a space for him on the end of the pew. 

My life this summer has turned into spending a great deal of time thinking about all of the lost moments and time with my husband. And I hate every minute of it. 

I won’t say that absence makes the heart grow fonder….and Andy and I have spent a great deal of our time together over the years apart. But I will say that absence does make you value the small things….like crustified boogers. It makes you hold each other longer when you do get to hug. It makes you say the words “I love you” a little more slowly and with more meaning behind it. It makes you cut through the mundane details of your day and just ask instead about how the person is actually doing. It makes you really prioritize spending QUALITY time with a person and teaches you to be PRESENT with them instead of just physically in the same room.  Absence in any form or for any reason makes you realize just how little time we get in this life with the people we love. We must not waste or take for granted a single minute of it.  

Journey to the Cross

The other week I had the opportunity to share in quiet reflection and prayer in the chapel at St. Mary’s. Myself, along with the rest of the Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults (RCIA) team I am part of, gathered Monday evening to pray the Stations of the Cross together. It was only about my 4^th time of ever praying the stations, but whenever I do, I am reminded of the powerful and emotional nature of the devotion. The particular version we used that night was told through the perspective of Jesus himself and really worked to place you right there alongside each step of his Passion.

For me, it is always comforting and peaceful being inside a church…..especially inside one that bears as much meaningful significance to me personally as St. Mary’s. Although I must admit, I’m not used to being inside the church when it is so quiet. Normally, it is full of booming organ music and voices raised in song, heads sit bowed in prayer down every pew, and the word of God being proclaimed reverberates about the circular space.  The space is always alive with the vibrant and devoted community of parishioners that call St. Mary’s home. 

But standing in the empty sanctuary that night and reflecting on Christ’s journey to the cross, I was reminded again of the immense duty we were all blessed with through his sacrifice. That is to continue the journey he started by spreading the faith, serving humanity and leading holy and honorable lives. Or more simply put, to continue saying “Yes,” to the Father each and every waking moment of our lives. Since my own baptism into the Catholic faith in 2014, I have sought my own ways to continue along the journey that God called me to. 

My first step was becoming a lector during Mass. Several years ago, I realized that one of my many gifts from God was my talents as a writer. As a writer, I understand all too well the power that the written word can have on the world. So helping proclaim the written word of God seemed especially fitting.

This past spring I graciously accepted an invitation to join the RCIA team of St. Mary’s. For me it was an honor just to be asked since this was the same group of people who supported me along the way to my own initiation into church. But I must admit, while I was willing, I felt very much incapable and ill-equipped to instruct others on the faith. There is still so much I don’t know and many things I seem to only understand on a surface level. I questioned whether I would be of any help to new catechumens and whether returning to RCIA was the right choice for me. 

I am a firm believer, however, that God speaks to each of us on a daily basis and is constantly offering up opportunities for us to grow and help grow the lives of others. The trouble is, most of us are too distracted, loud or fearful to notice these things. The day I was asked to join RCIA, I knew in my heart that this was one of those opportunities that God was offering me…..not just the RCIA team. And upon reflecting on my own story and journey to God, I realized that I did have something to offer. I might not be an encyclopedia of facts about the Catholic Church, but I lived the story that each individual who joins RCIA is about to start writing for themselves. I’ve experienced the same fears, doubts, and hesitancies they will experience. I’ve had the same questions and felt the same outsider feeling during Mass. And that’s when I realized that my experiences and knowledge are worth sharing and perhaps might be the most influential of all.

A few months ago another opportunity fell at my feet to join a women’s bible study group. At first I was thrilled; I’d long relished the idea of delving into scripture and pulling from it the deepest truths of humanity. But then I remembered how shy I am and the thought of sitting in a room full of total strangers utterly terrified me. A friend had initially confronted me about the possibility of joining the bible study because his wife attended as well. I took comfort in realizing that I might know one face in the crowd but I was still hesitant. But knowing that community is such an important part of my faith compelled me to set aside my fears and go anyways. So over the past few months I’ve consistently showed up each week, bible in hand, and tried my best to join in the fellowship and bible study. It has been a truly enriching experience thus far. And each week I am reminded of just how much good can come when we allow God to coax us out of our internal comfort zones.   

As I approach my third anniversary of joining the Catholic Church, I gain hope from realizing how far I have come from the mess I was when I first spoke the words aloud, “I wish to be baptized.” But at the same time, I am disturbingly aware of how much more I must do to continue growing in the faith and especially to better love and serve those around me. But I often wonder how I can fit any more into my life right now. How can I be and do all that I know God wants?

But in these moments, where I find myself overwhelmed with such thoughts, I close my eyes and go back to that empty church. I remember that without the small acts of many there would be no churches standing and no faith to adhere to. We all play a role and no role is lesser in the eyes of God than another. From the priest administering the sacraments of reconciliation and the Eucharist all the way down to the office administrator who pieces together the weekly bulletin listing upcoming events, each is doing a part in spreading the faith. Each is great in the eyes of God and each is needed at Mass each week.

For me, nothing reiterates the importance of these small acts of faith we make each day more, than the Stations of the Cross. From Simon the Cyrenian who helped Jesus shoulder his cross, the women who wept for Jesus as he marched and Veronica who wiped Jesus’ face, the stations remind us that we each have gifts to offer and can play a role in continuing the journey that Jesus came to set mankind on.